Saturday, July 10, 2010

Roses in Heaven

It has been an interesting couple of days.  There has been a lot of activity going on around me, but as what seems to be the norm, not to me.  Sure I have had my bit of swirl, but nothing major and nothing long lasting.  It is somewhat freaky how something starts to go south and resolves itself right away.

Some of the things happening to others are life changing.  A good friend of our family lost their 6 month old baby girl.  It is a horrible thing, and I can not imagine the extent of their grief.  It gives me chills to think about putting m baby down for a nap and having her never wake up.  Every little thing seems ok, the baby is resting peacefully and then, just for what ever reason, does not wake up.

What further saddens me about this situation is that someone actually told the business partner/good friend of this family that they deserved what happened to them.  I can not imagine how that compounded their sadness.

There are people in this world that rank high on my most hated list.  Some of them, I jokingly wish were dead.  Take Bob's old bosses for example.  I think they are monsters. While I certainly wish no good upon their houses, I do not really wish them dead.  That is between them and G-d.  The interesting thing is that one of them actually has passed.  He had cancer, so it is not really a surprise.  I was sorry to hear it, in the same way you are sorry to hear that anyone has died, but didn't really care.  I am sad for him, because he created so much hate in his life.

So, we all know how little I think of Bob's old bosses, and yet, I still would never say to that family, well you deserve what happened to you.  They might, but it is not my place to make that judgment, because just as equally they might not.  Regardless of how much I hated someone, I would never say that they deserve to have a family member die.  What kind of person does that? 

I just hope that the family of the little girl find a place where they can move on from this, and this one tragic event does not color the events of the rest of their lives negatively, forever.  They are certainly in my thoughts and prayers.  I hope that they realize that they did not deserve this.

1 comment:

  1. That is so sad for your family friend. I'd die inside if I lost my children before their time. I understand the vicarious grief you're feeling. I also think what that person said is horrible. What kind of person says that about a family losing an innocent baby! I'll admit that I've also had fantasies of schadenfraude, but not in that way.