It isn't fair.

That isn't fair, you are siding with him.  It is a refrain I hear over and over and over again.  Part of my job is to be the "judge" in our household.  To listen to the stories and mete out punishment.

When I hear adults whine that something isn't fair or that someone is siding with the other person, I want to shake them and ask them to think about it for a minute.  First off, life isn't fair.  But, when it seems that you are having more than your share of bad luck, it is time to take a look at the situation and decide how you are going to respond.  Whining about it, really isn't going to change things.

Sometimes we have to put on our big girl panties and take a deep breathe and try and see things for what they are, and then try and correct the errors.  If you can't figure out what the issue is, perhaps ask a trusted friend for advice.  But, when all the indicators point to specific behavior, by you, then perhaps you need to look at that.  Perhaps, the reason things are not working out the way you want them to is that the choices you have made in your life are not good ones and the universe it trying to right that.  To encourage you to correct your behavior and make things right.

It is my opinion that the events of recent past are trying to tell someone just that.  I think that the main players actually want things to change in a specific way.  That if you are willing to do the work and walk the walk, things will turn around for you.  The fact remains, that if you don't like the consequences of your current path, you are still in a position to change that.

In life there are moments when everything suddenly changes.  The measure of the person is how they choose to embrace these changes.  How they react.  Are you going to see the path you need to take and take it, or are you going to do something else.  There are consequences to both decisions.  Good Luck.