Thursday, January 3, 2013

Fuck 'em if they can't take a joke

First off, I'd like to dedicate my on time post to Merrylandgirl.  I recently learned I caused her much stress over the year by being tardy.  Oops... but, I will talk more about this in a minute.

Our topic is to talk about the lessons you learned over 2012 and how you will apply them to 2013.

I learned some big lessons and some not so big lessons.  One of them was that carbs are evil and that I am addicted.  As I am trying to avoid medications and get myself on a more healthy path, I have learned that shaking my addiction to carbs is a lot harder than I would have thought.  I am learning to like more veggies.  Although I recently learned that some of my favorite veggies are really fruit, but I digress.  There are days when I can not make it without my carb pick me up.  I find that no matter how hard I try and avoid them, I just can't.  I get a little crazy.  It really is like a drug addict trying to avoid getting high.

I had an interesting conversation with a friend about my particular addiction to wheat thins.  Until I started eliminating carbs, I really couldn't care less about them, now they are like sugar coated crack.  She surmised that I must really want the corn syrup.  Interesting, because as part of this project, I have inadvertently eliminated corn syrup.  No carbs = no processed food = no corn syrup.  I am now really careful to avoid corn syrup.  Now that I am off it, I find that even the smallest amount sends me on a wheat thin binge.

I can talk more about food, and how changing what I put in my body has changed my life significantly, but I also want to talk about the lesson learned in a bottle of tequila.  The lesson itself wasn't new, it was something I had been trying to embrace all year, but it crystallized at my Uncle's house this holiday season.  See my basic philosophy is fuck 'em if they can take a joke.  It is all about doing the best you can and not worrying about what others think.  (I try and post on time, but my life gets the way of my best intentions.  I do the best I can, and if other's don't like it?  Well, that is sort of not my problem.  While I am sorry that I caused undue stress, and will take that in consideration for the future, I can only do what I can do.)

But, back to my Uncle.  I stood in his house after being spoken to like the hired help and decided, you know what, I am a grown ass adult, I don't have to do this anymore.  I do not have to subject myself to his abuse.  I don't have to subject my children to abuse from his grandchildren.  I don't have to listen to the grandchildren speak ill of my family.  I don't have to do this anymore.  I am perfectly comfortable saying this to his face.  You and some members of your family have treated me like I am gum on the bottom of your shoe, so guess what we are going to pack up our toys and go home.  All I can do is what I can do, and what I can do isn't good enough for this crew, so fuck 'em. 

I will spend time with the ones that I like and not bother with the rest.  There are some good ones in that group, don't want to throw the baby out with the bath water!  The stress that was a big part of the holiday season evaporated.  It was like the heavens opened and angels sang.

I will spend my time and energy in places where it is appreciated and respected.  I will try and post on time, but I am pretty sure I will fail at this a lot.  I will continue to try and not eat carbs, but if you see me hell bent on a box of wheat thins, you might want to move out of the way.  I am sure I will learn more things, but you know what, Fuck 'em if they can't take a joke!

What did the other ladies learn?  Check them out at: Froggie, Momarock, and Merrylandgirl
**Motto credit goes to my very fist boss out of Grad school.  It was her family's motto, and we stole it.  It was too freakin' awesome to not take.  But, I like to give credit where credit it due.


  1. I love that motto! It's a good one to live by! There's only so much you can do- and it's too hard to please everyone, that's for sure. Great post!

  2. Sorry you had to deal with such difficult relatives. And I wasn't trying to guilt trip you at all. As I mentioned, I've been more laid back about when posts go up. I appreciate your consideration though! I enjoy reading your posts and you came up with some really interesting topics this year.
    I love Wheat Thins but I usually have to get the generic kind because the main brand isn't Kosher and the Kosher brand is super expensive for a box of crackers! So thankful for Target!
    Way to go on ditching corn syrup. Passover should be easy for you. :)