Thursday, September 1, 2011

I knit too...

The next installment of our Thursday blog project is to comment on the following article:  Tough Gals: do they still exist?  You can take a peak at it and then use the back button on your browser to come back and see what I have to say about it.  I'll wait.

::insert muscial interlude::

Ok, so did you read that?  (if you didn't I am about to summarize)  The basic premise is that in the 70's women fought hard so that women of today could have it all.  They fought for equal rights at work, sexual rights, the right for women to do what they want, just like the men.  Yet, here we are today, going back to traditional female roles.  Have we let our fore-mothers down?  Are we just not as tough as we were then?

I think having it all is sort of an unrealistic objective.  I think that there was a period of time where women worked, had families and basically burnt the candle at both ends and in the middle.  What you learn when you do that is that the candle burns up pretty quickly and then you don't have anything left.  Essentially, if you try and do everything, have everything, you end up with nothing.

There are not enough hours in the day to do everything.  We are so over-scheduled, over programed and as a result stressed out.  I talked about this in a post a couple of weeks ago, about why I left a hard won senior level corporate job to be a mommy.  I guess you could say I let my fore-mothers down.  Oh, and I knit. 

But did I?  I still am the one that deals with the cars when they break.  I can go on about Honda transmissions at an depth that is sort of frightening even to me.  I am the on that talks to the plumber, intelligently I might add, about the issues with the house.  My husband, is not as knowledgable about these things.  The tradesmen/women I deal with don't generally have an issue with dealing with me and not my husband.

I learned that having it all is an impossible dream.  It is like trying to grab the golden ring on the merry-go-round.  Round and round you go, but the objective is ever ellusive.  I decided that quality of life was more important.  That taking time to be with my family and raise my children was more important than having a high power job.  Other women have made other choices. 

Choices, that is what we were fight about.  I think that women of the 70's where not fighting so that women would be required to do everything, but rather to give them the options to do what ever they wanted and to have that be ok.    I appreciate that I have the option to have a high power job and a family.  I just choose not do that.

Even though I knit, make cupcakes and wear Hello Kitty jammies, I am not wimpy.  I am not weak, I am strong enough to recognize what my priorities are and to do what I think is important and fullfilling.  Even if it is girly.

Bet the other ladies are up to something tough too... wanna see if I am right?  Check them out at:  Froggie, Momarock and Merrylandgirl.


  1. Loved it!!! I love how a woman can be what she wants to be- no matter!!!

  2. I like the point you made here...that we have the options and it's up to us what we do with them. It's defnitely important to have a balance though!